Every relationship is faced with a time where the "honeymoon" season seems to be over. The connection seems to be fading,
you are fighting more often, and the passion seems to have evaporated from the relationship. It's during this period that
you need to work even harder on your relationship. If you continue to do the things you are doing now, the relationship will
continue in a downward spiral leading to the inevitable breakup. You can stop this trend and save your relationship by applying
these six strategies.
Tip #1: Communication
In all relationships communication is critical. Without communication the relationship will quickly fall apart. The forgotten
art form of communicating leads to the doom of many relationships. You can improve your relationship by simply opening up
with your partner and expressing your concerns. Do not forcefully put over your argument, but calmly discuss the issues and
keep an open mind when listening. Do not take it as a personal attack of your character, but instead listen and try to understand
the point of view of your partner. After your partner has finished expressing their view, you'll now have your chance to explain
your side.
Communicating should always be the first step.
Tip #2: Attraction
We all take for granted that physical attraction plays a vital role in a relationship. What many of us do is get extremely
comfortable and let ourselves go. Remember, in most instances your partner was first attracted to you based on your physical
appearance. It's very important that you do your best to uphold your physical attractiveness. If you were in good shape when
you met, and then let yourself get a "beer belly" within a few months of being married, then you cannot expect your spouse
to respond favorably. Yes they can understand, but it's also important that you also take initiative and do your best to keep
yourself in good shape and looking attractive. It's important so that your partner doesn't start to get wandering eyes.
Tip #3: Change As Needed
This goes along with tip #1 which discussed that communication is important to improve your relationship. If you truly
listened to your partner and understood the problem they are having with the relationship, then now is the time to put forth
the effort to change as needed. It's one thing to communicate; it's another to put into action what was discussed. Do not
forget this step.
Tip #4: Expectations
There is no fairy tale, let's make that perfectly clear. The most perfect of relationships will have problems. Most couples
when faced with their first real issue believe that it's all over and the relationship is doomed. It's in these times that
you need to realize and have a realistic view of what comes along with being in a relationship. The only persons that can
make a relationship work are the two people involved, so therefore you need to be up front with each other, understanding
that you'll have your good days and bad days, and learn from them.
Tip #5: Be the Rock
A relationship can fail if one person believes they are pulling too much weight. It's important that as a partner you take
turns being each other's rock. You need to be there to support each other, through the ups and downs that are brought about
through life experiences. By giving more, you inevitably will get more in return. Being each other's support and foundation,
can lead to a strong bond that will keep the relationship afloat.
Tip #6: Be Forgiving
In every relationship each partner will make mistakes. You'll have to be forgiving to ensure the survival of the relationship.
Don't hold grudges - just let it go. Without forgiveness your relationship cannot survive. It's human nature to be prone to
making poor decisions, but to make your relationship work, you'll need to forgive your partner; otherwise the relationship
will fail.
By following these simple guidelines, you'll be able to save your relationship. And remember, that every good relationship
is worth fighting for. Never ever give up, as with everything in life, it takes time and effort to see results but when you
do, it will be well worth the effort!
